Humble Pie is a real thing. If you take a big bite of it, you will definitely want to eat it in private, but this pie is not consumed alone; it’s typically a public experience!
Yesterday, I had a big serving, which was more than enough for a year. I played a 9-hole game of Scramble Golf with women I had met for the first time. In this game, our team of four golfers each hit a ball and then chose from the group’s best ball placement to take the next shot. We continued this process until the ball went into the cup.
For the first two holes, I couldn’t hit one good shot. Not one. Then when I finally did make contact, it landed left of the green, yet they all cheered me on anyway. This is how you KNOW when you are having a bad game - when a mediocre shot earns praise.
I realize that being humbled builds character and, despite my wishes, seems inevitable in golf. The frustrating part is I’ve been taking lessons and trying diligently to make progress. Recently, my friend’s husband told me I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. But, playing this badly in front of strangers after all that effort is perplexing.
Is there anything you are trying to improve? It could be a sport, habit, character trait, or skill. Perhaps it’s parenting – which provides more opportunities for public embarrassment than all the above combined.
Here’s my pep talk to myself. I figure it’s worth sharing for all of us who try and fail more times than we would like.
Plan on eating humble pie occasionally. It’s not harmful physically, so be glad for that.
Keep trying. Dabbling with inconsistent commitment is a recipe for more pie.
Forget about yourself and focus on others. Cheering them on is a great way to enjoy success, even if it is vicariously.
Keep a good attitude. No one likes to play with pouters and club-throwers.
Don’t make a big deal of your bad day. No sense in drawing more attention to yourself by complaining.
Let God teach you something; you know he’s working on your character. (Hopefully, he’ll help with things like golf too).
Believe you will succeed someday. You’ll win prizes, pins, awards… and best of all, you’ll gain a big heart of compassion for all those who struggle too.
Maybe those who have watched you eat humble pie, have been there as well. They’re probably just relieved it isn’t their day to eat pie.
Instead of judging you, they’re genuinely cheering you on. Believe that – hear the roar of the crowds … better days are ahead!
I feel my pep talk working; I think I can do this after all.